It’s that time of year again…
You’re frantically trying to come up with a list of New Year’s resolutions that you’re definitely going to stick to this year (unlike last year). You’ve bought a gym membership and you’ve promised that this year you’ll actually use it. You’re cutting down on the amount of sugary foods you eat and you’ve bought a new smoothie blender because in the New Year you’re eating less chocolate and more fruit. And let’s not forget that new journal you bought with the intention to write an entry every day for the next 365 days.
These are just some examples of how we try to ‘better’ ourselves as the New Year comes into full swing, and while there’s nothing wrong with any of these resolutions, sometimes (well most of the time) we just don’t stick to them.
Perhaps it’s because our resolutions are too vague or they’re not entirely tailored to us personally, and it’s not a case of ‘being a sheep’ and following the crowd where these example resolutions are concerned, but more that sometimes we need to delve deeper into our own personalities to figure out which resolutions will work better for us (and which ones will be easier for us to stick to).
Tips for Making a List of Resolutions:
• Keep it simple- try to avoid making a long list of New Year’s resolutions. Keep it short and snappy and you’ll feel as though the list is easier to achieve. You can always add more as you go.
• Be reasonable- don’t make your resolutions too difficult to achieve, it’s okay to push yourself but remember not to be too hard on yourself if you’re struggling with a certain goal.
• Pick one or two important resolutions- think about what you most want to achieve in the New Year and write this resolution at the top of your list. Make it your priority to stick to this resolution and you’ll feel great when you get to tick it off as ‘done’!
• Don’t be influenced by others- make sure your resolutions can’t be influenced by situations or people around you. For example, instead of writing that you ‘want to get a part in a play’, make your resolution ‘audition for a play’ instead- that way if you don’t get the part you’ll still feel like you achieved something (because not everything is in your full control).
• Break your list down into months- set yourself a list of resolutions/goals for the next 6 months and review them at the end of June! If you think they’ll be unachievable by this point cross them off or swap them for something you think you will be able to stick to or achieve.
• Don’t be so hard on yourself- making a list of resolutions should be fun and sticking to them shouldn’t feel like a chore. If you really can’t achieve something, don’t force yourself- cross it off your list if you have to, there’s nothing wrong with that, so don’t feel bad about yourself if you have to do this.
Remember that you don’t have to have a full list of resolutions written for New Year’s day, and you don’t have to start every single thing on January 1st either. Resolutions can take time to get into and that’s okay, start slowly and have fun.
It’s unrealistic to say that 2020 will be your best year, but setting yourself some goals will help you understand where you want to be and how you can help yourself feel content and happy in the new year. The main thing to remember going into a new year is to be kind to yourself (mind, body and spirit) and to have fun. Make 2020 the year you work on yourself and you’ll become a version of your best self in no time.